The world of adults: no one is suffering, there is no need to cry out for pain

/July 2022

Zhang ailing said:

for most people, life is beautiful on the outside, but each has its own sufferings inside.

especially for adults, it has long been invaded by the wind and frost of life.

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however, no matter how difficult life is, you always have to try your best to move forward before you can wade through the thorns and walk on the broad road.


in the adult world, everyone is suffering

see a very warm video on Douyin.

A takeout boy in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, accidentally spilled milk tea on the floor that the customer had just swept while delivering milk tea to his customers.

seeing this unexpected situation, he immediately lay down on the ground, cleaned with his bare hands, and kept apologizing to the customer and asking him not to give him a bad review.

the customer hurriedly helped him up and said that he was all right and would not give him a bad review, but he refused to stand up.

with the determined support of the customers, the takeout boy stood up.

later, in an interview, the customer said that it was not the takeout clerk's fault that he did not catch the milk tea.

No matter whose fault it is, you can feel the humility and bitterness of the takeout clerk in the video.

some netizens commented:

in fact, this takeout is not the epitome of most adults: making a living in hardship and survival in humility.

in the adult world, everyone is suffering and everyone is tired.

in order to live, we are all busy day and night, rain or shine.

maybe it's to improve the life of your family, maybe it's for your own dream, or maybe you have to bow to life because of reality.

Balzat's "Gao Old Man" says:

in life, there are too many people pretending to be happy while carrying a heavy load.

it always rains and there is always a quagmire in life.

when we cross it, everyone is happy; if we can't cross it, we will be bound with sand and it will be very difficult for us to walk.

so, even if life is hard, we should turn the bitterness of life into a jar of honey.

suffering will eventually be over, and we will eventually be sweet.


Adult grievances, there is no need to cry out pain

friend Xiaozhang talked about one of his experiences.

because of the epidemic this year, he was fired by the company in disguise.

because he is also a veteran in the company, he was dismissed this time, which really made him sad for a while.

when he left, he wanted to pour out his indignation about being dismissed to his colleagues who were close to him.

however, as soon as he opened his mouth, his colleague interrupted him and said, "dude, I'm a little busy at the moment. Why don't we have dinner some other time?"

Xiaozhang suddenly has no desire to tell.

he swallowed back his words awkwardly and replaced it with a bitter smile: "it's all right, you're busy first. I just want to say goodbye to you."

when he got home, he planned to talk to his wife about his distress, only to hear his wife complain that he was incompetent, that he had to pay for his house and car loan, and that his children's tuition was all on her own.

he could only hold back his sadness and silently went into the bathroom to smoke a cigarette.

Xiaozhang said that he had never been so sad as at that moment, and that the grievances in his heart were nothing more than a joke in the eyes of others, and the pain that went to the bone was nothing but a kind of hypocrisy in the eyes of others.

I remember Yang Mi was asked by the host in an interview: "you are not very good at saying that you are really hard."

Yang Mi replied, "Yes, I will say it in my heart."

indeed, the grievances of adults should be taken to heart, and there is no need to shout out loudly.

in this world, there are countless stories in everyone's heart, but not many people really understand the story.

over time, some stories can only rot in my heart, unable to say, and nowhere to say.

once read a particularly heartbreaking sentence:

in the adult world, there is no real empathy.

everyone has their own unspeakable sufferings. Most people are mud bodhisattvas crossing the river, and they may not be able to protect themselves. Who will give up their lives to share your worries and solve your problems?

many times, our talk may solve the temporary troubles, but after a long time, you have to go through it by yourself, and no one can replace it.

there has never been a comfort that can comfort you for the rest of your life.

only you know the ups and downs of life.

in fact, we spend the longest time with ourselves all our lives.

then, when you are depressed, keep quiet and sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with yourself.

maybe you will suddenly become enlightened.


instead of complaining around, it's better to learn to heal yourself

in the TV series "I'm willing to Love the whole World for you". Zhang Changgong, played by Luo Jin, is a very ordinary graduate majoring in computer science. His family conditions are average, and he runs up against a brick wall when looking for a job.

but instead of complaining around, he is looking for opportunities to open the door to the workplace, which is not very friendly to him.

finally squeezed into an IT company, and with his excellent professional ability, he upgraded all the way to the position of vice president of the company.

when his career reached its peak, the Internet industry encountered the biggest trough, and his company was not spared and was on the verge of bankruptcy.

he lost his job overnight and became a bum. Without a source of income, he suddenly felt a lot of pressure.

later, in the process of looking for a job, due to the cityThe market economy was hampered and he no longer encountered a high-paying job with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan. He either accepted a low salary of one or two thousand yuan, or he had to stay at home and stay unemployed.

in this way, he has been unemployed at home for a whole year.

in this year's time, it is conceivable that his previous savings have been unable to make ends meet, but his work has not yet settled.

anyone may have emotions, but even if he runs out of ammunition, he can always be rational and try his best to find a breakthrough in life.

in the process of falling and getting up, he finally found his own way out: writing online novels.

this also makes him go to the peak of his life, the novel is very popular, and his life value can be realized. Finally surpassed the crawling, confused and helpless self in the past.

Hemingway said in A Farewell to Arms:

everyone's life is bittersweet. It will give us warmth, and naturally it will leave us black and blue.

however, strong people learn to heal alone when they are injured.

he doesn't easily talk about his difficulties, let alone get stuck in the doldrums.

but alone through the darkness to the direction of light.

A person's life is destined to be lonely, come alone, and walk alone.

so, in this stormy life, we should learn to hold our own umbrellas and keep warm by ourselves.


May you be a quiet person for the rest of your life

when we are young, we tend to enjoy a lively life. What happens, I wish people knew all day; what grievances I have suffered, I wish everyone would take you into my arms.

however, the older you get, the more you feel that in the adult world, silence tends to be more useful than noise.

Silence may not be omnipotent, but it is an excellent way to deal with life.

as Zhang Dinghao wrote in "I like everything that is incomplete":

this "you" can be either a person or a life.

people's life is never easy. We always have to go through enough storms to see the gorgeous rainbow on the horizon.

when the bitterness of life teaches us to remain silent, it proves that we are really beginning to mature.

just wish us to be quiet people for the rest of our lives. No matter how hard life is, don't cry for pain. Just get through it and everything will be all right.