Self-crossing is the ability, and ferrying people is the pattern.

/July 2022


self-crossing is the ability

Ni Ping wrote in the Quotations of Grandma:

in life, you are the only one you can rely on.

in the TV series "I am willing to Love the whole World for you", Zhang Changgong's family conditions are average, and he does not have a high education, so he runs up against a brick wall when looking for a job.

later, I finally joined an IT company. By virtue of his excellent professional ability and hard-working spirit, he finally took up the position of deputy general manager of the company from an ordinary employee.

but at the peak of his career, the Internet industry was at a low ebb, and his company went bankrupt.

after losing his job, he was frustrated to find a job again and again. He was not only ridiculed, but also cheated out of money by the modeling agency.

later, he raised 80,000 yuan to buy a used car and run long-distance freight.

although he has experienced a leap from the cloud to the bottom of the valley, Zhang Changgong is not discouraged, but works harder and never complains no matter how hard he is.

because he loved literature since childhood, he began to use his rest time to write, even if he was so tired that he had a fever and protruded lumbar intervertebral disc, he was reluctant to rest.

finally, his novel became a hit and became a best-selling author. In his view, those who survived the night, the pain, compared with today's success, is really nothing.

Life is like a roller coaster. There are always ups and downs.

when you are at a low ebb, it is inevitable to be sad and confused, but don't always expect others to cross you, you have to learn to cross by yourself.

No one will be your arm and give you support all the time; no one will back you up and keep you out of the wind and rain.

Fan Deng said:

Life is your own. Instead of counting on others, you should try your best to move forward.

because you are your own ferryman.

Sanmao also said:

only if you have an umbrella in your hand, you are not afraid of being caught in the rain.

people have to fend for themselves after all in this life.


the famous pianist and composer Liszt passed by a small town in Germany one day when a female pianist was about to give a concert, and it was written on the poster that the performer was Liszt's student.

he was so confused that he could not remember teaching such a student. In order to find out the truth, he found the residence of the female pianist and visited him in person.

his arrival surprised the female pianist, bowed her head in shame and cried to tell the truth. It turned out that she was an orphan and pretended to be Liszt's student in order to make a living.

the female pianist knelt down and begged Liszt for forgiveness.

instead of blaming the female pianist, Liszt picked her up and gently said to her, "Let's see if there is any remedy."

he asked the female pianist to play the music for him.

the female pianist was engrossed in playing the piano, while Liszt gave her careful advice to correct her inadequacies.

finally said to her: "now that I have taught you to play the piano, in the future, you will be my student, you can rest assured to play my signboard boldly."

the female pianist is very grateful and admires Liszt even more.

at the concert, Liszt specially played a song himself, and his sudden arrival made the audience cheer.

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after knowing the truth, Liszt not only did not blame the female pianist, but also helped her.

his kindness not only fulfills the female pianist, but also makes himself more respected.

some people say:

"when others experience difficulties, you help them out of difficulties.

when things happen, they don't care, don't pester, and leave a way out for others. This is also ferrying people. "

Dudu people are kind-hearted, but also a pattern.

people with patterns have a tolerant heart and can understand that it is not easy for others.

when others are in trouble, give them a hand and help them.

look at those small people, they are penny-pinching, not only can not help others, but even step on the foot at the right time.

people who really have a pattern can do it, and crossing people has already been done, which makes people feel warm and comfortable.


people cross each other

A lot of times, we give kindness, but we don't want to return it, but there are a lot of things in life, there is reincarnation.

Today you build a bridge for others, but one day, others will pave a wider road for you.

I once saw a piece of news on the Internet:

in 2019, a patient named Tan Zhenghua was transferred to West China Hospital of Sichuan University. At that time, the patient was in a very dangerous condition.

Qin Ling, an ophthalmologist in the hospital, and her husband accompanied her all the time. Help to go through the admission procedures, sign the "critical illness notice" and accompany the examination.

they have been at the bedside to take care of, comfort and encourage Tan Zhenghua.

because of timely rescue, Tan Zhenghua was out of danger and did not leave any sequelae.

Tan Zhenghua never imagined that an act of kindness 11 years ago would have saved his life.

it turns out that when Qin Ling, who was from a poor family at that time, was worried about her college tuition, Tan Zhenghua, who had only met once, raised 7000 yuan for her tuition.

when she was in college, whenever Qin Ling had difficulties, Tan Zhenghua would send her living expenses and support her two sisters at the same time.

Tan Zhenghua later said that his wife was working out of town and his father could not read. Had it not been for the help of Qin Ling and his wife, the consequences would have been unimaginable.

as the old saying goes, "those who love out love to return."Those who are in the past are those who are blessed. "

A person's kindness will never be disappointed.

as the saying goes, those who are kind will be blessed.

if you give someone a kind word, you will get a compliment; if you give a rose, you will leave a fragrance in your hand; if you give someone a true heart, you will get the truth.

everything has a cycle. Whatever cause you plant, you will get fruit.

there is a saying in Zengguang Xianwen: "but do good deeds, don't ask about the future."

you just be kind. God has a plan.

he who crosses others also crosses himself.


everyone will encounter setbacks and frustrations.

We are both transitors and ferrymen.

when the trough is low, work hard to strengthen yourself.

because self-crossing is a person's best ability.

when others need it, lend a helping hand and help others if you can.

because, as the writer Liu Yingxuan said,

people always interact with each other, and helping others is also fulfilling themselves.

if you cross people, heaven will cross you.

May you and I all be people with light for the rest of our lives, not only illuminating others, but also warming ourselves.